We are disappointed by people everyday.
Be the method laziness, incompetence, misunderstanding, a lack of faithfulness, or simply deceit, they all result in fissures to our relationships and expectations. Their impacts are felt in both immediate and lasting ways. And they cause us to call into question many tenets we once held as fact.
As we have all witnessed, there are a spectrum of ways to approach the shortcomings of others, some better and some worse. Sometimes we cut people out, other times we talk about them behind their backs, alternatively we may opt to directly criticize or chastise them so they know and feel the depth of our disappointment. Paul, however, advocates for a direct but empathetic approach:
“But don’t treat him as an enemy. Sit him down and talk about the problem as someone who cares.”
This verse may come across as modern and soft, representing a more PC approach than might be expected of Biblical times. But I assert the value to this approach lies in the fact that we too fail others at a remarkably similar rate. And if we hope to be shown grace by others when we fall short, we must first model this somewhat unconventional approach in our own lives. For when we show grace, and others experience the freedom it brings, they will be compelled to bless others through reciprocation.
Think this week on who in your life you could show grace to. The blessing you bestow in doing so is liable to extend well beyond their life and wonderfully impact your own.